Is it better to die suddenly or slowly?
Before my beautiful mother passed away 7 months ago I couldn’t answer this question but now I can.
My dad passed away 12 years ago rather unexpectedly after a routine pacemaker insertion. He developed septicaemia post procedure and died about a week later. I flew back from London and sempat sampai KL the day before he died.
All happened very fast and there was a sudden emptiness in my heart for him. Although we were not so close (I was closer to my mum) there were so many things that I wished I had said to him and wished I had done for him. Rasa terkilan. So many regrets.
With my mum it was different, she was on dialysis already when in Feb 2021 the doctor discovered a lump in the right breast which later proved to have metastasized. Dah stage 4 breast cancer and not for any treatment. I was able to look after her as much as possible, do almost everything that she wanted to. Ikut je apa yang arwah nak buat. I made sure also that we knew what all her last wishes were. When she died, I felt that everything went according to plan and she died at home surrounded by her children like she wished for. I didn’t have any regret because I did the best that I could for her.
So if I can choose, I would definitely choose a slower death, a bit more time to be grateful to be living and a bit more time to prepare the goodbyes.
If your parents are still alive, give them a call today. If like me, your parents are no longer with you, anak yatim piatu, then let’s say a prayer for them hari Jumaat ni. Al Fatihah.
